Common Encounters, Holy Grounds

The military defines spirituality as an individual’s ability to find meaning, purpose, and strength through life experience, drawing on personal values, sincerely held beliefs, and ethical frameworks. It is an inner set of foundations that helps a person remain resilient to endure, overcome, and persevere through adversity while maintaining a sense of hope and purpose. It seems very secularistic and vague from the Christian perspective, but this is the mission field we are entering each day as military chaplains. This brief guide provides eight different steps that a chaplain can use to reflect and creatively engage in pastoral care and counseling in a pluralistic environment.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 3
First Step: A Holy Reminder and Awareness 6
Second Step: Meeting the Person 12
Third Step: The Gift of the Present Moment 16
Fourth Step: Zooming Out 22
Fifth Step: A Shift in Perception 28
Sixth Step: Remember Who You Are 35
Seventh Step: You are Not Alone 40
Eighth Step: Let It Go and Offer It Up 45
Conclusion 53
About Father Khoi 56


As stated in the past, I meant for all the books to be free, but Amazon does charge for their Kindle eBook and paperback formats, so I try to keep the prices very nominal (to cover the fees). However, the PDF files will always remain free for download. Additionally, any earnings will be accounted for and shared with the poor (because God has blessed me more than what I will ever need in this life). These were composed to be easily shared, available, and hopefully help people along the Way, not to make money or gain attention for myself.

Please note that I am not a professional writer, knowledgeable theologian, or skilled spiritual master, so you will find numerous writing mistakes and grammatical errors. I would like to apologize ahead of time because I did not use AI, hire a professional to proofread, or worry about making everything look perfect. I read and watched a few tutorials and did my best to figure things out with my limited computer and design skills. I struggled through the process, but keeping things imperfect is a great reminder for me as a recovering perfectionist and of my humanity!

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About Fr. Khoi

— Books

— Why I am a Priest

— Why I am a Military Chaplain

— Podcast Information

— I Thirst (John 19:28) Spiritual Reflections


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viet nam | united states of america | kansas | texas | congregation of the most holy redeemer | diocese of fort worth | archdiocese for the military services | united states air and space forces | english – español – tiếng việt | may 22 – june 29 | holy trinity seminary | st. mary’s seminary | ba – gcsf – ma – mdiv – stb | university of dallas – creighton university – university of st. thomas – st. mary’s seminary and university